Usaully,things in life hit in life very fast,regeresting in your head as soon as they happen.Like when you realize you"ll never be in the "in" crowd or never have blue eyes (exluding contacts off course),or how inuyasha dvd's will never be on sale, so on.Like when you take your finger out hot water as  soon as you regester that it hurts you dont do it anymore.However thing like the death of family member hits you graduly like a car crash.I starts fast the ripples threw your life.Lemony Snicket described as walking down a stair case and think theres one extra step.It's like that but your never get back up.It takes years to get over the death of a love one,but it does pass.Until that happens things you thought were Black and White are questioned.You cant think or eat,its relentless,until it fades in your memory it doesn't stop.Thankfully it fades due everyday life mostly due to humans expiring at a certain point.But what if you lived forever?The pain would never stop.Well my friend,I promise to tell you once I cross that bridge. .........That is-if your still around